Shortcut To Give Great Cunnilingus

There are basically 5 cunnilingus techniques that you can use to please your girl. One, sweeping. Two, suction, Three, ABCs. Four, Circles. Five, flicking.
Now, let us look at each one of these.
1. Sweeping. This is the most simple cunnilingus technique and you should have no problem pulling it off. Place your tongue on the right hand side of her clitoris and move it from side to side. Vary your pace according to her response.
2. Suction. This is a very powerful cunnilingus technique and you should only use it when she is sufficiently aroused. Suction too early in the game will put too much pressure on her sensitive clitoris too soon, which can turn her off completely. When she is sufficiently aroused, gently place her clitoris into your mouth and suck on it as if you are drinking from a straw.
3. ABCs. Use your tongue to draw ABCs, shapes, numbers and other words. Be creative and make it unpredictable for maximum pleasure.
4. Circles. This is another simple cunnilingus technique. Place your tongue at either side of the clitoris and move it in an anti-clockwise or clockwise direction.
5. Flicking. Use the tip of your tongue to flick the clitoris repeatedly. Then suck it into your mouth, release and flick it again.
Warning: Do NOT bite her clitoris... unless you want to cause serious pain to her and turn her off completely.
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How To Suck A Pussy?

The very first thing you have to do is to sexually stimulate her mind. This takes place hours before you're in her presence. Set the tone by telling her that she'll be in for some good loving when she gets home tonight. Make sure she knows how beautiful she is; how much she completes your picture of the world and everything in it, and enhances it. She needs to feel sexy before you enjoy sex together. This is the most crucial part that gets lost on so many. 

A woman's sexual pleasure and stimulation begins in her brain and ends with her clitoris; not the other way around. The more you make emotional deposits into her well-being, the better your sexual energy and synergy will be. Ideally, you should be making deposits daily, and even when you're not having sex. This way, she knows that your intentions are genuine and your feelings for her are sincere. 

Tell her that you want her pleasure to be your priority, and prove it by making her mind and body the focus of stimulation.. 50% of sexual pleasure is anticipation, so be sure you plant vivid seeds of pleasant imaginations in her head before you see her and she'll be happy to oblige. 

When you do see her, make sure you take your time during foreplay. Embrace her tightly, look deeply into her eyes, plant long, moist, sensual kisses all over her. Slowly undress her. Caress her and whisper slight profanities in her ear of how much delight she's in for, or how much she turns you on. Make sure she FEELS how beautiful she is to you. Worship her body with your mouth, lips, and tongue. 

As you prepare to dive in, keep your hands free to spread open her thighs and gently press your mouth against her vagina. Use your hands to part the skin of her labia and ever so gently begin to bathe her clitoris with clockwise swirls with your tongue. 

As you're doing this, make sure to keep your ears peeled for her moans of pleasure and delight as you develop a nice rhythm, and try to stay within that "speed limit" if you will. Use her reactions as a gauge to help you determine the speed, and intensity of your tongue's pressure.

As you've developed a nice groove with her, begin using your hands to gently rub and caress her nipples and trace them up and down her body ever so slightly. This will provide a compound effect on her senses that will lead her to a much more powerful and lasting climax. 

Also, begin to slide one or two fingers inside her vagina, as you continue to give her oral pleasure. She should be enthralled now, as she's receiving sensual stimulation in two distinct areas. Begin to fine tune your pace based on the frequency of her moans and the reactions of her body. 

As her rhythm increases, be sure to alternate between sucking and licking her clitoris. The way you suck is critical; be sure to suck it as though you are sucking the juice from a half- peeled orange. Make sure you try to do this in an undulating fashion, much like a jet stream pump. 

By now, the compound effect of all your efforts should be leading her to a healthy and full orgasmic crescendo. When she does reach climax, DON'T STOP! Continue to suck, caress, lick, slurp, and nibble her treasures as she rides undulating waves of euphoria. This only enhances her orgasm. 

Be sure to rinse, solicit feedback, and repeat. :-)
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HOW TO GIVE HER THE BEST CUNNILINGUS


Basic Guidelines:

"Less" is always the best way to start out if you don't know exactly what a specific person likes. It's much safer to build up from "not enough" than to try to back down after shattering the mood by being too rough. The final argument to ensure that you always apply this rule is this -- If you start out "too" gentle/slowly, in most cases this just excites your lover more, even in the rare cases that it frustrates her a little. But if you start out "too" rough for her, it almost always turns her off to the whole thing. 

The differences between women cannot be emphasized enough -- no matter what you have encountered so far, always assume that you have no idea what a new partner enjoys. It is entirely possible to have had many lovers, and think They are all pretty much the same or You've learned all of the variations, and can tell who's what. But this can be (and usually is) just a matter of random chance...you happened to get several similar lovers. Eventually you will run into someone, or many people, who are completely different than those you've known before. 

Don't start by going down on her. Work your way up to it. Exceptions may be if you're in a hurry before your Press Secretary shows up, or other situations where you're expected to act more directly. It's worth observing that "work your way up to it" remains true no matter how many times you've been with that lover. With a long-term lover it may seem like you can get right to the direct stuff, but working your way up still has the same effect of increasing her excitement, with most women. 

Along the same line of reasoning, don't start licking her clitoris immediately, when you do get there. Start with the area around it, which can be pretty sensitive with some women, even if it doesn't seem to cause the same dramatic response. 

Even more important is to not immediately start inserting fingers in her vagina. With most women, that really needs to be built up, first. It usually doesn't hurt to build up a little, even if she's already excited. 

Remember this -- Most often, the tongue works best with the clitoris, the fingers with the vagina/g-spot. Someone else's fingers on her clitoris tends to be a little rough, no matter how careful they are...and almost all of the excitement she gets from attempting to lick into her vagina is psychological; she can't really feel much that way. 

Hand Care It's best to be sure your fingernail edges are very smooth, and preferably cut all the way down to where they connect to your skin. No matter how careful you are, they are likely to cause her to get a little sore inside, or even really hurt, feeling like a knife cutting her. This can even be the cause of soreness that she doesn't realize is being caused by your nails. Being a guitarist, I have the nails on my left hand trimmed back as far as I can cut them, anyway. Guitar also gives one's fret-hand amazing endurance and finesse, for g-spot stimulation and other tricks. 

Dental Dams These are, in most cases, just plain silly. Unlike almost any other form of sexual activity, the odds of you transmitting or catching AIDS this way are almost zero. There are almost no cases of any female homosexuals, for instance, even claiming to have caught AIDS this way. In case you're wondering what the hell I'm talking about, a "dental dam" is simply a condom cut in half lengthwise and used to keep fluids from passing between mouth and vulva. And it's being advocated primarily by people who are simply jealous that they're missing out on a great chance to be a "victim" in the issue of sexually transmitted diseases. Interesting note -- A little noise on your part usually doesn't hurt, and sometimes it helps. Some women are very hung up on cunnilingus, determined to believe that, no matter how much you say otherwise (and she claims to believe you), it may be at least a little unpleasant for you. If you're excited by her responses, or by the act itself, don't try to stay quiet about it. The same kind of sounds that will reassure and excite a lover when they're pleasuring you will often work when you're pleasuring them, too. This could be considered a secret weapon in sex in general, because most guys are rather quiet, and yet women almost always find responsiveness very exciting. The contrast between someone who's responsive and most of the other guys makes it even more effective than it would already have been. 

More Advanced Techniques: 

The G-Spot
This does exist. And in over half of the women out there, it works better than anything else you can do to cause a strong, prolonged orgasm. The original name is the Grafenberg spot, after a doctor, Ernest Grafenberg, who documented the area (which may have been known by people here and there throughout history) in the fifties. 

This "spot" is a small "mound" of tissue inside the vagina, between a penny and quarter in size, which responds to being pressed upon. It's almost certainly not the skenes glands, (which are located around the urethra, which is behind the G-spot area), as has been suggested by a few people. In fact, the G-Spot is the tissue in that raised area of the vagina, which has a higher concentration of sexual nerves, and produces hormones similar to those made by the male's prostate gland. 

A sort of map to the area -- Imagine your lover lying on her back, legs spread. Your position is between her legs. You would slide a finger inside her vagina, palm up. With your finger straight back, middle finger is best, you would curve it toward yourself, gently, as if you were gesturing to someone to "come here". In doing so, the area you press on should be pretty near her "G-Spot" area. If you know enough to follow the urethra (the tube that leads from the bladder to where the pee comes out), along the inside of her vagina, you may feel a slight swelling (if she's excited) at the point where the g-spot is. 

She must be excited, especially if either you or she is new to the g-spot, for the g-spot to have any real effect at all. It's not the ideal area for getting your lover aroused. 

But when she is excited, this area (more often than not) is the best way to bring her to orgasm. You work your way back to it gradually, teasing her (typically, this works best) with your fingers, slowly and gently. It's easier to hit the right area with two fingers, but this may not be comfortable for her, depending on how "tight" she is at that moment. When you have your fingers around the right area, try gently pressing, not too quickly. The movement should be fairly rhytHydromaxic. It's typically best if you're licking her clitoris (or near it, depending on the woman) at the same time...don't make a big deal out of the "quest", this will often make her feel self-conscious, or distracted. The licking should seem to be the primary activity. 

When you find the right area, she should respond by getting more excited. Most of the vagina's inside surface isn't really that sexually sensitive, believe it or not...most of the excitement of randomly inserting fingers is more psychological than from the actual stimulation. 

While more complicated techniques work with some women, some of the time, the best basic technique, upon finding the g-spot, is to continue to slowly, rhytHydromaxically press on it, while licking her clitoris (for a few women, the labia (lips) are sensitive to licking, too). This should cause her to build up to an orgasm. 

A G-Spot orgasm is different (always, when it works at all) than any other kind women have. It is possible, with some women, to have different qualities and kinds of orgasms from vaginal, clitoral, anal, and even breast stimulation...but with other women, those kinds of orgasms are all pretty much the same. But the G-Spot orgasm not only feels different; it also causes her body to react in a different way. 

First, it often causes a "push out" orgasm. The area around, or "above" (farther inside, that is) your fingers seems to swell up or to contract toward the opening of her vagina. 
If you find the right combination of pushing back when this happens, and slacking off to let it push out, you can cause (in perhaps half of the women) her orgasm to continue happening, long after normal ones would have subsided. In some women you can even keep her at a "plateau" (raised level) of sexual excitement, like a prolonged orgasm (or a little less than one) afterward, building up to an even bigger climax. I've managed to keep this pattern of build-up, orgasm, plateau, orgasm, build-up, orgasm for over four hours, with one lover. We stopped when, though she wanted to go on, she was so exhausted that she really had to stop. 
That brings me to another important point; G-Spot orgasms sometimes (less than half of the women, I'd guess, and in some of those women only occasionally) causes a huge amount (relatively speaking) of lubrication (juices, wetness)...far more than even the most excited woman gets from "conventional" stimulation. It's a good thing, too, because otherwise g-spot orgasms can only be prolonged for as long as she does not get raw/sore from it...which is yet another reason to be gentle. 
When that extra wetness combines with the push-out orgasm, you get actual ejaculation...like a guy, but much better tasting. The built up juices can shoot out in such volume that you, or she, may be afraid that she lost control of her bladder. That is (almost always) not what happened. The fear that she peed can be enhanced by the fact that the urethra is behind the g-spot, so that in rare cases the woman can sometimes get the feeling that she needs to pee, even though she does not. 

In reality, in both men and women, enough sexual excitement prevents peeing, unless you try really hard. This is a built-in reflex, because urine is something of a spermicide. The "pee hard-on" that men get in the morning is partially his body taking advantage of this reflex, to keep him from accidentally wetting the bed with the urine that built up while he was sleeping. 

Clitoral Stimulation
With some women, the clitoris is highly sensitive, in others it's not. Just to make things extra-confusing, some women will go from one extreme to the opposite one as they get excited. Remember this, it's very important. It's usually best to build up to licking her clitoris, perhaps by kissing around her vulva, licking around gently, et cetera, as you build up to actually touching her clit. 

Licking doesn't have to be as simple as it sounds, either. You can keep your tongue soft, and gently caress it, or tighten your tongue to something of a point and rhytHydromaxically lick at it. You can include it as the middle of a wider stroke, or concentrate directly on it. You can gently press your lips around it and suck, or suck it between your lips and lick it intensely.

Remember to pay attention to how sensitive she seems to be. Always use the Better Safe than Sorry approach of building up, at least until you know about how much she usually likes. After that point, it's good to sometimes surprise her with greater intensity (if she likes that), and other times to build up gradually. 

Licking the Alphabet
Believe it or not, Sam Kinison's suggestion of licking the alphabet, one letter at a time, on and around her clitoris/vulva actually works. I had come up with a similar technique myself, but his version is pretty close to the perfect formula -- The real goal is to be able to keep regular, rhytHydromaxic motions going, but to change them in some gradual pattern that isn't so different it throws her off, but isn't so redundant that she grows insensitive to it. The alphabet is probably the longest chain of shapes that you can be sure to repeat smoothly and rhytHydromaxically, without loosing track of where you are. Unless you are a victim of public education, I suppose, in which case you may have to stick to the letters of your name, or the numbers one through nine (being too confused by where to put the zero). 

I would not suggest combining this with the g-spot stimulation, at least not with the intention of really giving her g-spot orgasms. The two techniques conflict a bit, as the focus of arousal is so different. 

So Cool It's Hot
Among the many implements of destruction you can use for cunnilingus, there are a few which involve something special, not just seeing what fits in the hole. 

One of the most obvious is ice. The very first thing I should point out about ice is that you DO NOT just grab any old ice cube. The ice should be relatively warm on the outside, with no sharp edges and a gentle layer of water from where it's slowly melting. 

The best way to ensure this is to put it in your mouth, first. In fact, the safest bet is to use a very small cube, like you probably get in a soft drink from a restaurant (not crushed ice, though). You can, of course, melt down one of your local ice cubes from the fridge to whatever size seems best. 

Keep the ice in either the palm of your hand or your mouth. You can stimulate her with your fingers or tongue, then gradually work the ice inside her, or you can simply cool your fingers or tongue with the cube, so she can feel the different texture when you lick / touch her. 

So Hot It's Cool
In fact, you can switch back and forth between cooling your tongue with ice, and warming it with hot (not overly hot) coffee or tea (or even hot water). The changes in texture may be very stimulating... 

Cough Drops - Nothing to Sneeze At
After you've thought about it for a while, this will seem obvious. Just remember that it probably wasn't, until a minute ago... 

The way a cough drop, either menthol or mint, works is to stimulate the mucus membranes in your mouth in the special way that feels "cool and tingly". Well, one of the few other places (easily accessible) on the human body that has mucus membranes is the vaginal area. Many people find that, correctly applied, a cough drop feels just spectacular down there. Most people at least find it a very...ah...refreshing change of pace. 

A few important tips: 
Use sugar-free cough drops. N'ice is a great brand, especially the menthol or mint versions. If possible, find one (whatever brand) with both menthol and mint. It's actually possible that sugar cough drops are just fine, or even better...the debate is over whether the sugar might feed an already existing yeast infection. The things I've heard from semi-expert (medically) people are that it may feed one (and thus aggravate it), that it actually will protect from yeast infection (I forget the reasoning, it may have been a Ph thing), or that it's not the kind of yeast that eats sugar anyway. One thing's unanimous: sugar cough drops won't make any difference unless you're already infected, they don't carry that kind of yeast. In fact, a human's fingers or tongue would be more likely to (and even that is pretty unlikely, if they're of even typical cleanliness). Let the drop become even more rounded and smoothed by sucking on it for a while, if you're actually going to apply it inside (which is the most effective way). 

Speaking of which, the best thing to do is actually insert it with your fingers. This only works if you're going to be using your fingers during the cunnilingus, though an alternative is to leave it there for a while and then engage in coitus, which can be pretty nifty for both parties. 

If not insertion, the best way is to simply suck on it and then, with cough-droppy saliva, lick her as you would have done anyway, perhaps using the Alphabet method. This isn't quite as amazing, but is still pretty good. Altoids are supposed to be pretty good, but they're very powerful. I haven't yet verified whether they work, though Don & Mike (Radio Gods) unintentionally made a big deal of it recently. They admitted they were working from a position of ignorance, much like their reviews of movies they have never seen. Don't forget to try breathing on, or blowing lightly on, her vagina/clitoris. The effect is more subtle until you try this... it's the exposure to air that makes it especially tingly. 

Just for Noel
When Christmas time rolls around, some stores sell a kind of candy cane that's over an inch thick and six or eight inches long at the straight part (it may not even have the hooked part at all).

Take one end of that, and suck/lick it until it is more rounded and smooth, and you have one of the most entertaining objects you might ever insert in your lover's vagina. It has that special minty feeling, like a cough drop but milder, and is the approximate size/shape of a penis. 

Butt-Free Anal Stimulation
The vagina actually shares a wall, on one side, with the rectum. Not only does this mean that sexual stimulation is possible from anal entry (which is a whole separate page), it also means that a similar sensation can be achieved without ever touching her butt (not that there's anything wrong with that...heh) by stimulating the side of her vagina where it shares nerves with her rectum. This is more or less the exact opposite, one hundred eighty degrees around, from the g-spot. In other words, if you were to reach in and arch your finger to touch her g-spot, then rotate your hand to face the exact other direction and make a similar (but flatter) motion, you've got the right area. Common sense should tell you where I'm talking about, anyway, since it's the area where it would touch her rectum, inside. 

It rarely works well to stimulate this early on...usually you need to not only build up to it, but even get her pretty excited and sensitive first. This is not only to make the area more receptive, but also, in some cases, so that she will be beyond any danger of distraction over the tabooness of how it feels somewhat like you're stimulating her anally. Press more with the length of your finger, not the tip. This works best, in many cases, as a change of pace, not the main attraction. Which leads us to... 

Around the World -- or the Sea, Anyway
Once you have your lover "used to" the whole g-spot stimulation thing (she will actually get "better at" cumming from g-spot stimulation, the more it's done to her), you can try, occasionally and for variety, stimulating her g-spot until she starts to really respond, then switching back and forth between pushing (as gently as normally necessary for that particular lover) her g-spot and pressing the length of your finger on the opposite side, as per the last section. Sometimes you can even get to the point of doing one press on one side, one on the other, back and forth, which can feel amazing and a bit "what on earth are you doing? No, I didn't say to stop" to her. Most likely, though, it'll work better if you switch every several seconds, not every time you press. 

Around the World -- Part II
I should not fail to mention the cervix. You may not have even noticed it, by touch, but it's there and once you find it you'll wonder how you missed it (unless your lover has had hysterectomy, in which case it's missing, no big deal). This is yet another area where you definitely want to build up to stimulating, as it can actually be painful to even touch if she's not excited enough...but, despite assumptions to the contrary, it can be very useful for stimulation, done correctly. 

As I said, issue #1 is that she must be very aroused. Well, bearing in mind that everyone's different, of course. 

The Cervix is also about 180 degrees around from the g-spot, but it's in much deeper (typically). It leads back to the rest of her reproductive organs, like the womb. If she's pregnant, don't mess with this at all. Watch out, too, for IUDs and diaphragms and the like. Hopefully you are on good enough terms with her to already know if she's using one of these contraceptive devices, which fit over the cervix. 

The cervix is not an abstract "area", it actually juts up, like a little flesh mesa or something. It has an opening at its very "peak", but this is normally closed pretty tightly. 

The best way to start is to gently caress around the sides and base of the cervix. Remember, she should already be very "hot" before you even start this part. Eventually, build up to circling it with one or two fingers, around and around, gently staying in contact with it so she can feel the motion through the cervix itself. How hard you can press depends a lot on the specific woman. This is also something that probably works better as a change of pace, not the "main course" of the cunnilingus session...unless she really gets into it. 
That circling motion may get another round of "what on earth are you doing...hey! Don't STOP doing it!". You may even, and in my experience this rarely works, but works well when it does, be able to press directly on the tip, with your finger or fingers, pressing it the way a penis might if one happened be entering her at the right angle to hit her cervix. 

Side Notes 

Taste 
Anyone who likes, say, coffee or beer should have no room to complain about the way most women taste. No, I don't mean it tastes like coffee or beer, genius...I mean that beer and coffee are, at best, acquired tastes...they are not naturally pleasant to a human being, no matter how much your addiction to one or both has convinced you otherwise. Most people, whether they remember it or not, had to learn to like the taste of beer/coffee, and had the desire to be Like the Adults to help them along. Well, I'd list taking pleasure in cunnilingus above drinking addictive beverages on the list of things that prove maturity. Aside from that, there's the fact that many people who give it an honest try genuinely enjoy the taste/smell, myself included. Had I not liked it, for some reason, I would have simply taught myself to like it, because of the great pleasure it can bring. Aside from whether you find the taste/smell sexually exciting to begin with (and, because of pheromones, males (at least) should), surely it will become ever more stimulating for you as you come to associate it with the pleasure you can give. 

Rest 

If you do have a lover who can experience repeated, extended orgasms from g-spot stimulation, and you (for some reason) need to take a break, the absolute best way to do this is to give her a clitoral orgasm. This can be as simple as pushing even more gently and slowly on her g-spot, while giving her clitoris more attention (it can often take more direct and firm stimulation by that level of arousal), so that her next orgasm is really caused by the licking, not the pressing of your finger(s). This works because, with many women anyway, clitoral orgasms leave her feeling very sensitive, and momentarily satisfied (or at least wanting to take a breather). 

There is, on the other hand, a very interesting trick for staying "in the game" when your tongue is getting tired. Switch from moving your tongue directly, to using your whole jaw to move your tongue, by slightly opening and closing it. If you tire of this, move your entire head, so that it's doing the actual work that makes your tongue move. When even your neck tires, it's on to the final backup-plan, but the one that works the longest; gently rock your entire body back and forth, at the same speed that you were doing each of the other, so that it's your body that's actually doing the work to move your tongue. For someone who hasn't built up the mighty endurance that's useful with a lover who can have hours of orgasms, this is a great trick. Of course it mainly works when you're going simpler, rhytHydromaxic motions...save the fancy tongue stuff for when your tongue's doing all of the work (you should be able to switch back to tongue-only motion regularly, as it gets rested).
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How to give her a mind-blowing orgasm with oral sex

“Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken.” —Simone de Beauvoir

A lot of men seem to think that the one sure-fire way to bring their lover to orgasm is by performing cunnilingus. It seems so easy! All you have to do is lick her clitoris, right? Wrong! Good oral sex is a delicate balance between technique and timing. You can certainly learn the technique, but the timing is a little more difficult.

We’ll start with the easy part, technique. Although there are many different ways to perform cunnilingus, your partner’s preferences will vary wildly. Try several techniques to see what she likes, and then vary them to see what works best for her.

Licking

The same as with a kiss, a mushy tongue is unappealing to a woman receiving cunnilingus. Use your tongue as a muscle, concentrating your action on the tip of it. Flick her clitoris with a short, concentrated motion, varying your motions from time to time with longer strokes. This technique gives her quick jolts of pleasure mixed with brief moments of no stimulation, and then intense stimulation. You’ll be teasing her, increasing her sexual arousal and helping her build toward climax.

Rotating Tongue

Many people don’t realize that the area around the clitoris is also very sensitive. Again, use your tongue as a muscle and lightly trace the area around her clitoris with the just the tip of your tongue. Don’t get mushy! After you move around the area for a little bit, focus on licking small circles directly on her clitoris. Then go back to licking the area around it, as well as the rest of her labia and her vagina. Then move back to the clitoris. By concentrating the motion in small, tight circles and breaking up the action, you’ll soon have her revved up and ready for orgasm.

Tapping

Although not every woman likes this, those who do seem to love it. The idea is to flick your tongue in a sharp, quick pattern directly on her clitoris. It takes a little practice, but it’s well worth the effort. You won’t want to use this technique the entire time; mix it up with licking and the rotating tongue.

Tonguing the Alphabet

Another exciting variation to licking is tonguing the alphabet on her clitoris. Don’t tell her what you’re doing, or she might start giggling! Starting with A and ending with Z, cover the entire alphabet, and then start again. Repeat as necessary. This varied pattern will keep her body guessing about what’s going to happen next, tantalizing her. As she nears orgasm, focus on short, sharp licks. Variation is good at the beginning and middle, but at the end, she’ll probably want the same good technique until she climaxes.

Face Straddle

Many women enjoy being on top during cunnilingus. If that’s your partner’s preference, get comfy on the bed with your head on a pillow. Have her straddle your face with a knee on each side of your head and gently lower herself until she’s in reach. As you try different techniques, she’ll probably move above you, giving you clues about where to lick next. Follow her lead, and she’ll explode.

Timing Really is Everything

As I said earlier, the trickiest part of giving your partner satisfying oral sex is the timing. Your woman has probably used her hands to pleasure herself for years, and she knows what she likes. Unlike penetration, your tongue is a close approximation of her fingers, so your chances are 50-50 that you’ll either make her think of how she can do it better, or replicate her own technique, but better. The difference lies in paying attention to what you’re doing and following her clues, whether she speaks them aloud or shows you with her body.

Another thing to remember is that for many different reasons, not all women like receiving oral sex. It’s a very personal love act, and it might not always be the right time for her. She could feel dirty, embarrassed or pressured to fake an orgasm so that you won’t have to keep giving her selfless love. The best way to cope with these negative feelings is to talk about them beforehand. Make sure she understands that what you most want to do is give her pleasure. If she doesn’t have an orgasm, oral sex still feels great!
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How to Move Her Towards a Mind-Blowing Orgasm

To become a master at oral sex technique, imagine your tongue is no longer a tongue. Imagine it’s turned into your index finger, so that way you’ll press more firmly with it than you normally would with your tongue. As a woman’s pleasure increases, often she’ll feel like she wants something inside her.

So, put your pointer finger inside her. It rockets a woman’s pleasure to the moon when you stroke her finger bang her at the same time your tongue is enjoying her clit. But don't do this by simply poking your finger in and out the way they do it in porn movies. Instead stroke her female g spot, which you’ll find on her front wall, about one inch above her vaginal opening.

Start to finger bang her as her clitoral stimulation increases. Read the section on G-Spot stimulation for more details, but basically you should start out soft with her G-Spot, moving your finger all around as you’re eating her pussy, and then become firmer and focus directly on the squishy tissue of her G-Spot. Don’t just jam your fingers into her vagina.

Tip: Always make sure your fingernails are clipped short and smooth. If you slice her from the inside with a sharp fingernail, she will become sore, and the last thing you want is for your woman to associate soreness with your touch. Another top: This thing you’re putting in her not only has a fingernail, but it’s also made of bone… which makes it much harder than a penis. So be gentle, as you move her not only toward a perfect orgasm but toward multiple orgasms.
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How to give her a mind-blowing orgasm with oral sex

“Sex pleasure in woman is a kind of magic spell; it demands complete abandon; if words or movements oppose the magic of caresses, the spell is broken.” —Simone de Beauvoir
A lot of men seem to think that the one sure-fire way to bring their lover to orgasm is by performing cunnilingus. It seems so easy! All you have to do is lick her clitoris, right? Wrong! Good oral sex is a delicate balance between technique and timing. You can certainly learn the technique, but the timing is a little more difficult.

We’ll start with the easy part, technique. Although there are many different ways to perform cunnilingus, your partner’s preferences will vary wildly. Try several techniques to see what she likes, and then vary them to see what works best for her.

Licking
The same as with a kiss, a mushy tongue is unappealing to a woman receiving cunnilingus. Use your tongue as a muscle, concentrating your action on the tip of it. Flick her clitoris with a short, concentrated motion, varying your motions from time to time with longer strokes. This technique gives her quick jolts of pleasure mixed with brief moments of no stimulation, and then intense stimulation. You’ll be teasing her, increasing her sexual arousal and helping her build toward climax.

Rotating Tongue
Many people don’t realize that the area around the clitoris is also very sensitive. Again, use your tongue as a muscle and lightly trace the area around her clitoris with the just the tip of your tongue. Don’t get mushy! After you move around the area for a little bit, focus on licking small circles directly on her clitoris. Then go back to licking the area around it, as well as the rest of her labia and her vagina. Then move back to the clitoris. By concentrating the motion in small, tight circles and breaking up the action, you’ll soon have her revved up and ready for orgasm.

Tapping
Although not every woman likes this, those who do seem to love it. The idea is to flick your tongue in a sharp, quick pattern directly on her clitoris. It takes a little practice, but it’s well worth the effort. You won’t want to use this technique the entire time; mix it up with licking and the rotating tongue.

Tonguing the Alphabet
Another exciting variation to licking is tonguing the alphabet on her clitoris. Don’t tell her what you’re doing, or she might start giggling! Starting with A and ending with Z, cover the entire alphabet, and then start again. Repeat as necessary. This varied pattern will keep her body guessing about what’s going to happen next, tantalizing her. As she nears orgasm, focus on short, sharp licks. Variation is good at the beginning and middle, but at the end, she’ll probably want the same good technique until she climaxes.

Face Straddle
Many women enjoy being on top during cunnilingus. If that’s your partner’s preference, get comfy on the bed with your head on a pillow. Have her straddle your face with a knee on each side of your head and gently lower herself until she’s in reach. As you try different techniques, she’ll probably move above you, giving you clues about where to lick next. Follow her lead, and she’ll explode.

Timing Really is Everything
As I said earlier, the trickiest part of giving your partner satisfying oral sex is the timing. Your woman has probably used her hands to pleasure herself for years, and she knows what she likes. Unlike penetration, your tongue is a close approximation of her fingers, so your chances are 50-50 that you’ll either make her think of how she can do it better, or replicate her own technique, but better. The difference lies in paying attention to what you’re doing and following her clues, whether she speaks them aloud or shows you with her body.

Another thing to remember is that for many different reasons, not all women like receiving oral sex. It’s a very personal love act, and it might not always be the right time for her. She could feel dirty, embarrassed or pressured to fake an orgasm so that you won’t have to keep giving her selfless love. The best way to cope with these negative feelings is to talk about them beforehand. Make sure she understands that what you most want to do is give her pleasure. If she doesn’t have an orgasm, oral sex still feels great!
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Sizzling Cunnilingus Tips From Women


  1. Use smooth, steady, slow rhythmic licks. Slow and steady wins the race
     
  2. I am new to this whole oral sex thing. My husband decided to eat me out the other night. He made these motions with his tongue and told me to guess what he was spelling against my clit. I thought it would be weird to have him do that but it really relaxed me and I had fun with it. So guys: Spell out little messages like "I love you" or "You taste good." It will take any hesitation away from your girl while she's decoding your playful messages.
     
  3. At Wal-Mart they have these little ice trays that make tubular ice for bottles. They sell the trays for a dollar each. Get small pieces of (what my husband and I now refer to as) Cooter Ice. Slip them around the clit and into the vaginal opening. It makes for wicked sensation.
     
  4. In regard to oral sex in particular, you MUST know your lover's sensitivity level. I, for one, am ultra-sensitive. If someone just dives in and attacks my clit, uses teeth, has no variation in technique, then I will probably still orgasm; however, I will be too sore to go again for hours or even days. This is extremely irritating!
     
  5. If I start moving toward your tongue, it's because you and I have found the exact "spot"...let ME move, don't you move.
     
  6. The secret is to soften the tongue and work around the clitoral area rather than aggressively attacking the clit. Variation of pattern is also important. Once I'm truly horny, an occasional flick of the tongue is ok--but only occasionally. I also think that stimulation of the G-spot, which is basically adjacent to the clit on the inside of the vagina, is important as it creates a much deeper, more intense orgasm.
     
  7. Nothing is more erotic than being held open with gentle loving hands. It gives direct access to the clit and he works it so well. I melt every time! When his elbows are planted at shoulder width (my lover's shoulders are quite wide) and he has me open and exposed, working away, there is no way I am able to get away.
     
  8. I totally agree with starting slow and looking her in the eyes. That drives me crazy. Another thing that makes me crazy is when my guy moans or growls while kissing and licking my pussy. The reverberations from the deepness of his voice drive me wild! Not to mention hearing him enjoy himself gets me off even harder.
     
  9. If you boys start it... KNOW that it may take awhile! Finish what you started and once you've found her hot spot, stay there!
     
  10. If I know I'm going to get a good eating from my man, I will eat pineapple throughout the day. He says it makes me taste unbelievable! I've also heard watermelon and celery will change the taste of your juices.
     
  11. Having had my pussy licked, sucked, eaten, and savored by both men and women, I can tell you that the best way to find out what she likes is to get her to play with herself. Follow her lead, and it will change each time. Sometimes my pussy wants it hard, really hard, and sometimes only the slightest feather touch will make me explode.
     
  12. Keep a steady rhythm going, and keep your tongue relaxed! Pointed tongues are too harsh on the clit, and actually desensitize. Another thing to keep in mind is that just because she's moaning louder doesn't mean she suddenly wants you to start going faster, make crazy figure eights, or gnaw on it. It means she likes EXACTLY what you've been doing. When a guy is doing something I really like, I'll usually say, "Don't stop," which means, "Don't stop exactly what you're doing right now."
     
  13. I find that just the tip of my partner's finger inserted in my pussy after he's been eating me out for little while - barely moving, just sort of tickling the entrance - makes me go nuts. Pussy eating is a delicate matter, so don't thrust your finger too vigorously. You're just trying to gently tickle her into coming!
     
  14. I like a guy to ask me how I like my pussy licked so I can help him find that awesome combination that makes me squirt without worrying about hurting his feelings or making him think I don't enjoy his moves. It takes a really great and confident lover to ask for feedback during hot sex. It makes me crazy!
     
  15. I like my man to slip his fingers into my cunt while he is paying attention to my clit! Men, if you look like you are really enjoying yourself, too, it makes all the difference. A former boyfriend used to growl into my pussy when he went down on me which was unbelievably erotic and made me feel really wanted!
     
  16. Don't forget about using the nose too! I love feeling my man's nose nuzzling my clit, and feeling his breathing on me, especially the moaning exhaling and him inhaling (smelling) me. Also, I don't know why, but the "wet" sound turns me on... the creamy, squishy, squelching noises.
     
  17. Don't bite the clit. Men don't like having their dicks bitten and we don't like having our clits bitten either. It hurts and will very quickly get us out of the mood.
     
  18. Don't drool and don't make loud sucking sounds. It's disgusting. A major turn off.
     
  19. Popsicles are a good idea. They make a guy's tongue cold and the sensation is amazing. That, and the taste will be better for the guy. It's a win-win situation.
     
  20. Deep kiss her clit. I love my partner deep kissing my clit, taking both lips of my vagina. I want him/her to suck on them for a long time before concentrating on my clitoris.
     
  21. Tongue fucking is what rocks my world. Clit play is nice to get me hot, but after that, I want your tongue flicking across my hole for a while, teasing me with the idea of going in, then giving it all to me. Clit play gets boring after awhile and many women are too sensitive there anyhow.
     
  22. Don't forget to warm us up first. Just like BJs aren't that great if we take your pants off and deep throat you off the bat, we like to be teased with the idea for a while, and get really, really aroused before you get started. It makes the orgasm THAT much harder.
     
  23. I hate the finger penetration while sucking on the clit...it's distracting. Most guys just suck the life out of you because they think it's wonderful. Licking is wonderful too. Try it. The most important thing is to watch her reaction. If she's just lying there quiet, then she is bored and wishes you would stop.
     
  24. Don't forget to be patient. It's not like in a porn movie - most women do not have an orgasm with in a minute or two. Like any good thing in life, it takes time and is worth waiting for.
     
  25. Stop and make her need it. Finger her now, slowly at first, and kiss her thighs. Start again by flicking her clit with your tongue, light pressure, then experiment with other pressure and movement. Everything on the clit feels good, but some moves feel GREAT! Play around with tongue pressure and fingering and ass fingering or ass tickling/licking (if she wants it).
     
  26. Use your entire face. Nothing is more frustrating than a hesitant tongue. The chin rubbing on the opening to the vagina adds to the pleasure. Also, let her know you enjoy it as well. Moan a little. A woman can tell if it's a chore.
     
  27. Definitely start off with light kissing and slow deliberate strokes of the tongue. Then do some circling. If your girlfriend feels your tongue is too rough when you start off, you can tell because her movements will be too jerky and squirmish. That's your hint to either slow down, decrease pressure, or find another place to lick for a few minutes till she warms up.
     
  28. Once I'm warmed up, I like spreading my legs wide and enjoying the hot wet lickage. What turns me on the most is talking dirty. I like asking my dude if he likes my pussy. So tell her some stuff (in between licks) that will blow her mind and enjoy what is bound to come next.
     
  29. My tip to all men is don't put a whole lot of saliva in her when you're licking her. It feels better when there isn't a loogie inside us we can feel.
     
  30. Don't shake your face - no one likes that! Also, complimenting her on her appearance down there boosts sexual confidence, which could lead to bigger and better things.
     
  31. There is nothing I love more than his mouth on my clit and two fingers inside me. It doesn't really matter if his tongue moves back and forth, side to side, or in circles. All that matters is that once he chooses a method he sticks to it and DOESN'T CHANGE OR STOP. After a little of this I'm begging and pleading for his fingers inside me at the same time. They don't need to thrust because everything is already so sensitive. He just slides his fingers in and does a slight "come here" type motion while continuing to use his mouth on my clit and I usually respond by coming quickly indeed!
     
  32. Ask your girl while you are downtown, "Right here?" and have her guide you. And once she says "YES, right there," don't stop. Don't change technique or location unless she asks you to. Too many times I have been right on the verge of cumming and the guy changes positions, my clit goes into spasms and I didn't even get to enjoy it. Damn, that pisses me off.
     
  33. A rigid pointy tongue is horrible, but a soft flat tongue is amazing.
     
  34. Enjoy it! We always get more pleasure if we feel that the guy is REALLY having fun. If I see that my boyfriend is doing it under pressure, I won't enjoy it either.
     
  35. I like to lay on my back while he rests his head on my left leg and begins to kiss, lick and suck me. He purses his lips as if he is saying "OOOH" and grasps my clit with his mouth, thrusting his tongue through his lips and rolling it around my button. Sometimes he goes back and forth and then around, always doing this very gently at first, then with more pressure as I began to go crazy. In Asia they call this cunnilingus technique "polishing her pearl."
     
  36. My boyfriend does this thing right on the clit, kind of like he is saying "LA LA LA LA!" really fast and then slowly licks up every once in awhile. Oh my god! It's great! People, I have had multiple orgasms from this little technique! And boys, I advise trying this on your girl!
     
  37. I like it when my lover's tongue slowly takes the tour of my labia then moves up to my clitoris, and while their tongue is concentrating there, their lower lip moist from saliva and my love juices is brushing gently around my perineum, with an occasional glance across my anus. It makes my asshole pucker and the sphincter response sends ripples through my vagina.
     
  38. Just because she has cum does not mean that you are done. Don't be afraid to give her clit a gentle massage with your tongue and lips as if you're calming it down just to get all worked up again.
     
  39. Make noises when you're eating the pussy. You want her to believe that eating her pussy is the best thing you ever tasted. Think of your favorite food and pretend the pussy is just that.
     
  40. That other girl was right about the "tongue fucking." Generally tongues aren't long enough to stimulate the area really well. The general entrance isn't all that sensitive and it won't really accomplish much. I'm not saying to only stick to the clit...by all means, have a wander, especially in the beginning. But just don't spend too much time trying to "tongue fuck" unless you're Gene Simmons.
     
  41. I love it when my boyfriend hums on my pussy. No songs, just a hum. It feels like a vibrator while he is licking on my pussy
     
  42. My boyfriend wasn't confident he was getting the right spot to start with, so we found it helped to place a CD over my vagina so the hole matched the position of the clitoris. That way he couldn't go wrong.
     
  43. Some women like a consistent rhythm when getting eaten out. Don't just dive in. Pay attention to where you are licking, how fast, and how your tongue is shaped when you do it. I personally find that a flat tongue against my clit at a steady pace (usually medium speed to start and gradually faster as I get closer to an orgasm) is most satisfying, especially if you are a beginner.
     
  44. There is nothing worse than a guy who finds a licking technique that the woman likes and then changes his speed or tongue position mid-lick because he is afraid she is getting bored. Really your girl is just going to get frustrated and it is going to be harder to make her cum. If she acts as if she likes what you are doing - STICK WITH IT!!! Don't change your technique because your guy friends tell you that it is best to try a bunch of tricks all in the same session. Just pay attention to her!
     
  45. Focus on the clit! Guys usually just want to lick all over, but that's never going to get the girl to orgasm anytime soon. Just focus on licking the clit in a solid motion or in circles, and then simultaneously finger her in her vagina. Do both of those at the same time, and she'll be reaching orgasm and begging for more!
     
  46. I like when my man spreads my legs wide then takes both hands to hold my lips apart while he licks around my pussy, gently flicking my clit, slowly at first then faster and faster until I cum. It drives me wild. It really makes me feel like he is so into eating me out and that there's no other place he'd rather be.
     
  47. We have something like 5 times the nerve endings as men do "down there." So more pressure, more motion, etc., really isn't more. It's just distracting and/or painful.
     
  48. As a woman, the best thing I can say is, don't just start going at it! It is uncomfortable and it helps if you set the mood first. Teasing and blowing really feels good. Let your mouth do the work, not your hands!
     
  49. I love it when my man uses ice cubes. He gets a cup and fills it full of ice and then slowly pushes them in one by one. When they're in, he starts to lick and kiss my clit, and once they're melted a little, he'll suck them out one by one. It's an amazing combination of the two temperatures and gives me an amazing orgasm.
     
  50. Ask her what she wants! We are all different and like it different ways. What worked for your last lady might not be on the list for your next. I like a tongue soft and light on my clit until I tell you to suck it! WE will let you know what feels good. Just ask!
 
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